EmotionalIntelligence

When you speak ill of others, consider that it hurts you more than it hurts them. This is because your unkind thoughts are the loudest within you. All of your thoughts arise within your mind. Some may flow out into the world in the words you speak or use. These thoughts are at their highest intensity within you.

No matter what situation you are in or how hurt you are, you do not need to have the last word or symbolically win the argument. If you are angry, annoyed or otherwise emotional, you may find that your last words can often obliterate good intentions or even the good memories.

Try to catch any unkind thoughts before they become expressed out into the world; pause, then ask yourself do you really want to be this way. Pausing will help to break the cycle of your conditional reactions, allowing you to change your thoughts to those which you will not later regret.

How many times do we look back at situations in our lives and recognise that, with hindsight, we could have acted or reacted differently? If you become aware of your thoughts, emotions and feelings, then you have the opportunity to no longer become lost in these aspects. When you are angry, be aware of your anger. If you become stressed, be aware of your stress. When you become annoyed or irritated, be aware of your irritation.

As soon as you become aware of these thoughts, emotions or feelings, you have the opportunity to choose how to act or react. Your awareness allows you to become mindful as you witness these aspects as if you were viewing them from the outside looking in. Once you are aware, you can pause, then make a choice to change your way of thinking or react differently.

People often wonder: What is the basis of emotions which seem to rule many people’s lives? At the most basic level, emotions are lower level responses occurring within areas of the brain and mental form, in response to stimuli and thoughts. Emotions themselves are often short-lived, but lead to longer-term mental associations. Over time, your emotional responses are subjectively blended with personal experience, beliefs and memories to create your feelings.

Take the opportunity observe your thoughts and emotional reactions in life, so that you can choose how to respond, rather than just reacting with passive intellect.

Very few of us understand, nor comprehend, how much we become completely involved with our strong thoughts and emotional reactions in our lives. Being so involved, we never have the opportunity to consider that it is our mind, which creates a very large percentage of the sickness, unhappiness, fear and even depression.

In life, you have the choice of how you react. Through active intellect, you can choose to stay balanced and in control, or you respond by sliding into pre-programmed patterns of thinking, excuses and the emotional reactions of your passive intellect. Take the opportunity to pause and reflect on how thoughts and emotional reactions may be affecting you, then make choice to bring about a change.